I’ll admit that I’m not a huge fan of this show, particularly because the title is so misleading. There’s really only one chick who’s actually married to a basketball player on the show. But I digress. Anyway a couple of weekend ago, I had the pleasure of being able to watch a marathon of it’s second season. The show’s a real mess, but you can learn quite a bit from matching it. Here are three key things that I’ve learned from watching the 2nd Season of Basketball Wives.
Lesson #1. Birds of a feather…you know the rest! All I can say is that if you don’t want to be known as loud and ghetto, stop hanging with those who are. Gloria Govan (my favorite from the first season) knew just that which is why she always chose to keep her distance. And although she was the youngest of the ladies, she’s clearly smarter when it comes to separating herself from the drama. As a mother of two, I respect the way she always kept the other ladies in check, making it clear that she wasn’t a follower. I can only hope that Suzie Ketcham takes a cue from Gloria and does the same.
I personally don’t travel in packs. Most often you will find me in the singular, for that particular reason. But the few (very few) close friends I have and spend time with definitely don’t have these crazy traits…because they wouldn’t be friends of mine if they did;-)
Lesson #2. Misery loves company. I am always conscious of those who appear to be happy to celebrate my mishaps with me. On the show, Jennifer Williams is having marital problems and always seems to talk to her friend, Evelyn Lozado about it. The problem with this is that Evelyn has never been married. I know….and no I’m not saying you can’t get any advice from a single person if you’re married. But I do warn you to take heed of that being your sole source of advice! It just bothers me that Evelyn is so much happy to help Jennifer commit infidelity. Yes, I understand that Jennifer’s husband has cheated on her in the past. But guess what? Two wrongs don’t make a right.
However, I think it was because Evelyn was single and was so eager for Jennifer to be too. But trust and believe now that Evelyn is heavily involved with Chad “Ocho Cinco” Johnson, the tables are going to turn. I recall Evelyn trying to coerce Jennifer to sleep with someone else. But on a recent episode, Evelyn quickly blowed off Jennifer’s warning to take heed of professional athletes, particularly Ocho Cinco. However, I highly doubt that Evelyn will consult Jennifer about any problems she’s having with OchoCinco. I can’t wait to see how the dynamic changes in the new season, as I’m sure it will.
Lesson #3. Men will make time for what they want to make time for! I knew this already. But OchoCinco gave me a refresher on the subject. OchoCinco asked Evelyn when she was going to come to Cincinnati to see him. And she said she thought he may to busy, considering the season had started and he was busy with practice. His response was he will always make time for the things he WANTS to do! So often, we accept shallow excuses from men that we would love to spend time with. All too often, we hear “I’m tired” or “I’ve got to do, xyz!”. And in some cases that may be true. But the fact to the matter is, men will always make time for the things they value the most. So if he’s suddenly not making time for you, it may be time to realize that he’s probably just not that into you anymore.
These are only a few lessons that I’ve learned. Be sure to subscribe to my blog, so that you can have the latests blogs sent directly to you;-)